'Cuz that's how I roll

Look, I'm not 'gangsta'... in fact, if you saw me, you would truly laugh at me saying that. I am about as white as they come. The reason I want to talk about this phrase is it is a great response to somebody else's stupidity.

If someone comes up to you and is complaining about your behavior, or why you do something, you can simply look at them and say... ' cuz that's how I roll'.

I can get offended when people approach me in a judgmental way. I think that responding in this manner keeps my sense of humor involved. After all, a stupid question deserves a stupid answer. This way I laugh instead of telling someone that my life is none of their business.

I never ask a personal question of someone that seems closed. I know that as a pastor's wife people might feel compelled to tell me an answer. One of the most beautiful pieces of information that I have learned as an has been that just because someone asks a question does not mean that they are entitled to an answer. Seems simple, but this one took awhile. As a result, I really have to pay attention to how someone seems to be wired when I am talking to them. I figure that if people really wanted me to know something that they would tell me.

There are always exceptions to the rule. If I see someone that is not acting like they normally do, I think that it would be a reasonable question. You can normally tell how someone asks, "How are you", if they want the typical generic response or something more involved. If I think that someone that I care about is truly hurting, I will slip in there. However, this implies a relationship: If I do not have one with the person, I will not even go there.

I think we tend to covet our space, both physical and emotional. We want to sulk alone if that is our choice, or share with those of our choosing. I do wish that we could all be a little more circumspect, myself included, about which lines we choose to cross. It would make life less complicated.

Love to you all out there, (Cuz that's how I roll) Muffinhound (my name for today)